If I Do Not Love…

“If I keep my house immaculately clean, and am envied by all for my interior decorating, but do not show love in my family – I’m just another housewife.

“If I’m always producing lovely things – sewing, art; if I always look attractive, and speak intelligently, but am not loving to my family – I am nothing.
“If I’m busy in community affairs, teach Sunday school, and drive in the carpool, but fail to give adequate love to my family – I gain nothing.
“Love changes diapers, cleans up messes, and ties shoes – over and over again.
“Love is kind, though tired and frazzled.
“Love doesn’t envy another wife – one whose children are “spaced” better, or in school so she has time to pursue her own interests.
“Love doesn’t try to impress others with my abilities or knowledge as a mother.
“Love doesn’t scream at the kids.
“Love doesn’t feel cheated because I didn’t get to do what I wanted to do today – sew, read, soak in a hot tub.
“Love doesn’t lose my temper easily.
“Love doesn’t assume that my children are being naughty just because their noise level is irritating.
“Love doesn’t rejoice when other people’s children misbehave and make mine look good. Love is genuinely happy when others are honored by their children.”

This is from A Mother’s Heart: A Look at Values, Vision, and Character for the Christian Mother by Jean Fleming. She paraphrased 1 Corinthians 13 to fit her stage of life as a mother to help her learn, meditate on, and practice love. Her paraphrase encouraged me and reminded me to show, feel, and have love in the small things each day. I thought it might encourage some of my blog readers too, so here you go!

Happy 1st Birthday, Jack!

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It is so hard to believe that a year ago, Jack was just a tiny little newborn peanut. (Our nicknames for him are “Peanut Butter” and “Cha-cha.”) Then, I just remember being so thankful that I wasn’t pregnant anymore and wondering what kind of kid that little bundle would turn out to be.

Turns out, he’s a really great little man!

Here he is with his first taste of fantastic birthday cake (with way too much frosting). I think he liked it. Well, it was shaped like a giant truck, so of course he liked it.
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His 1-year-old doctor’s visit went well and he was pronounced to be a healthy boy.
Length: 29 inches (25th percentile)
Weight: 21.9 pounds (28th percentile)
Head: 18 inches

He is a long, skinny guy. Jack is generally very mellow and is content to play by himself or alongside Caleb. He generally goes with the flow no matter where we are or what is going on. Unless, of course, he is teething. He currently has 6 teeth. The top two lateral incisors cut through on November 23rd at Grandpa and Grandma Lewis’ house. Both within 10 minutes of each other! Boy was he mad. He is currently cutting two more, hopefully they will come out soon so we can all get some sleep around here!
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Jack’s favorite things are airplanes, cars, dogs, and horses. He speaks about these and knows which books contains them. He also loves music and will dance and point to the speakers when music is playing. He will even “sing” certain songs along with you and knows some simple dance moves.

He really really loves his big brother Caleb. Two days ago we were at a bakery and both boys were up at the window looking at all of the treats. Caleb put his arm around Jack and said, “Okay, little buddy, I will tell you about all these treats. These are cupcakes, their frosting is pretty good. These ones are chocolate chip cookies, that’s what I like. And these ones are oatmeal cookies, those are the best ones to share with Grandpa Pffffbt.” (Grandpa Pfffbt being my dad, Grandpa Whiting. The “pfffbt” is the sound the horses make.)
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Did I mention that Caleb painted his head one day? You can always count on your big brother to put a little color in your life:
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Jack is trying hard to communicate. He can sign for all done, airplane, dog, fan, and light. He knows the sounds made by an airplane, car, tractor, cat, dog, and horse. He knows how to say mama, dada, and Ella. He also is starting to point at things in effort to get you to talk about them, which we do often. He can sing the “la la la la Ella” song and does so very adorably. He also loves the “Wiggle Wiggle Go” song and “Skinna Ma Rink a Dink” and will do the actions for them.

I have tried so many times to get the cute things he does on video, but all I have ended up with is 30+ minutes of him staring at the camera. Unlike his brother, Jack will not perform on command. I guess that’s how they were destined to be. Caleb, the performer, and Jack, the adoring fan.

I am so used to him always looking up at me to see what’s going on:
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Of course, he is now climbing absolutely everything. We got another step stool so he can stand up at the counter when I’m working in the kitchen. He can climb on the coffee table and on couches and chairs. He will pretty much shock you with his climbing ability, actually. He climbs up the little slide I have downstairs and slides down it face first (!), which he thinks is awesome. In terms of walking, he has been able to stand alone and take one step before giving up and being fine with crawling. He does, however, like to push his walk-along toy around the house and walk by holding onto my fingers.

Oh, and favorite book? Hands down it is Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?. He knows almost all of the animal sounds and especially loves impersonating the goldfish under water by rubbing his fist across his lips while making sounds. Pretty funny.
I almost forgot Jack’s other favorite book, Go, Dog. Go!. I mean, it’s about dogs and cars. He trills his lips (car sound) and woofs through the whole thing and even “reads” it on his own. It’s funny because I got this book for Caleb and he never liked it. But Jack, oh, dogs and cars totally speak to him!
Our wonderful Jack, we pray that you will grow deep roots that find a river of God’s amazing love, power, and goodness to drink from. We pray that you will put all of your trust in God for all of the days of your life. We hope we can celebrate our God together with you for all of eternity! Thank you for one year of seeing you blossom.

Making Art with Little Kids – Part 2 (the advice)

In response to my rant on Making Art with Little Kids, here is my advice on how to approach art with young children. (You didn’t think I’d go off on a subject so dear to my heart only to leave you hanging, did you?)

The truth is, making art with little kids is an awesome experience. It reflects the joy of our Creator by creating ourselves. It expresses thoughts, ideas, emotions, and documents life. It promotes higher-order thinking and problem solving. It teaches experimentation. It encourages hard work and planning. It helps children to dream, imagine, and play. It builds fine motor skills, lots of them! It helps us understand history. It helps us judge the quality of products. It helps us make our own products. It teaches us constructive criticism. Shall I go on? My point is, making art with young children develops a ton of wonderful skills that everyone, even those not interested in “art”, will use in life.

Hopefully the following thoughts will give you a framework to think about approaching art with young children and also help you on your way with some practical tips.

Process is more important than product.

In math, we would teach children to add single digits before moving on to double digits. It wouldn’t make sense to do it any other way, right? Well, when you are expecting your kids to think about the finished product of a jack-o-lantern neatly glued to a piece of paper you are doing the equivalent of expecting them to add double digits. Your kid is not thinking about the jack-o-lantern or where it will hang or even that it’s Halloween. Your kid is probably thinking something like, “Look at the glue ooze out of this bottle! Wow! It goes faster when I squeeze hard! But now it’s not coming out. Is it clogged? What if I shake it?… hmmmm… what if I hold it this way?”

Think about all of the little things we have mastered that go into making art that are new to a child. How to hold a pencil, how hard to press, how to make it draw straight lines and curves and dashed lines, how to open a glue bottle, how hard to squeeze, how to get the glue flowing, how to control the flow of glue, how to use the right amount of glue depending on what kind of paper is being used…. It’s really quite complex when you think about it.
Give your child the space to actually learn these basics. For most children, it will take them until age 7 to 12 to master these skills so that they can do them without thinking. Then they are more ready and willing and able to focus on the idea or the final product instead of getting tangled up in lack-of-skills. And this will repeat even into adulthood every time a child is presented with new materials. (But be careful, emphasizing the final product for children or adults will often stunt the ability to make a picture in the first place. For example, if you knew you were going to frame something and hang it in your living room, you’d probably be a little more nervous and obsessive than if you were just trying to make something for no stated purpose.)

Here is a concrete example of how Caleb learns the basic skills of cutting and gluing. He has a very messy sketchbook that is his “cutting and gluing” book. He has cut almost every piece of paper into fringes around the edges. There are bits of everything glued to all of the pages. I gave him a bottle of flour + water to practice gluing because I don’t care if he wastes it by squeezing it for hours. I don’t plan on hanging it up or doing anything with it. He will literally stand at his work table and cut and glue for long periods of time. He is working on process, and neither of us has any inclination to display it or use it for any other purpose than experimenting.

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Reward experimentation. Encourage it.

I recently was given a set of a new kind of oil/chalk pastels that I hadn’t used before. I sat down with a piece of scrap paper and just messed around with them. What happens if I try to blend colors? Several colors? Mix with other media? Will it do detailed work? How big of an area can I cover with them? Do they layer without blending? Can I scrape into it? What kind of texture options does it offer? You have to ask these questions every time you are presented with a new medium so that you know when, where, and how to use it effectively.

The same idea pertains to children. Especially those that have little or no background knowledge to build on. (Most middle school students I taught had no idea that a simple pencil could give you many different shade values by pressing hard or pressing lightly! Even though they had been using pencils for years!)

I will set out a new material for Caleb and just let him play with it. I may ask questions when it looks like his own thought process is slowing down (don’t interrupt their ideas with ideas of your own, let them exhaust their possibilities first). What happens if we drive cars through the paint? What happens if we put watercolor on top of that? What happens if we… What happens if we… What happens if we…

Here is some experimentation Caleb did with a Crayola marker:

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Then, reward the experimentation and not the product. “Look! You put bits of yarn in your paint! Isn’t that interesting. Some of the yarn stayed fuzzy and some of the yarn got stiff and hard. I bet you had to be careful to not get too messy. I can see that you were thinking hard!”

Hang that weird bit of experiment art up. Speak to your child and others about the experimentation happening. Caleb recently was looking at some egg shells in the sink and asked if they could be made into art. Good question. We did lots of stuff with them. Some worked, some didn’t. We learned from all of it. It was some seriously weird experiment art, which is the best kind for little kids learning to think and do.

You don’t have to hang it up.

Sometimes we hang up our art for a long time. Or a short time. Sometimes we give it to someone. Actually, I often encourage giving away things we’ve made or creating something with a specific person in mind. Sometimes we go, “Oh! This was a big mess! Let’s put it in the garbage! Yuck!” Sometimes we save it and turn it into another project later. We’ve used large “smear” paintings as gift wrap. We’ve turned some into greeting cards. Sometimes we will tear the papers to practice gluing something else or for collages. When Caleb is bigger we can try weaving scraps from old projects.

Kids will learn that different kinds of end results have different worth. Some are worthy of giving to others, some is worthy of being hung in a purchased frame, some is worthy of going in the trash. You can ask your child where he or she thinks it should go. They get very perceptive at this and it’s important for them to learn that it’s okay for some work to go in a frame and others to be be recycled. Just make sure you are keyed into your child and don’t destroy something he or she values. It’s wonderful to think of all the ways these skills will translate to adulthood and working in the “real world.” The ability to accept criticism, to know that all ideas are not good ideas, to be willing to call something a mess, etc.

It’s okay to do something focusing on technique. But keep it short and developmentally appropriate.

Once you see that your child is getting comfortable with a material or materials, and he or she seems to have exhausted all of the “what if” experimentations, go ahead and teach technique. I will usually say, “You have been coloring so well, let’s see if you can copy what Mama does and learn some of the ways big people and artists use crayons. Can you make a circle that goes round and round and round (draw)? This one is a wheel (draw). This one is a cookie (draw). Hmmm… lets make more round things like….”

You can even offer suggestions as to how the shape could be improved. Pay attention to the child’s tolerance level and stop as soon as it is waning. I have Caleb worked up to the point that we can draw together for up to 45 minutes of engagement. But we started out with maybe 30 seconds of engagement. Start with simple things like drawing a straight line, drawing a tiny line like it’s a little worm, drawing a heavy line like it’s a big fat snake, drawing a zig-zag line, etc. If you can work a story into it or a sense of fun you will probably win extra attention span from your child (see “Have fun.” below). I’ve done this with entire classes of children and it can get exceptionally fun. You can do the same thing with other media. We’ve recently been doing color washes with watercolors and are also starting to turn shapes into things (like circles in to birds and faces).

Now, I am not one of those hippie art teachers who thinks it’s all “freedom man.” I love the freedom of experimentation from Jackson Pollock, but I also adore the grandeur and visual impact of Michelangelo. Rembrandt emotionally strikes me to the core. And Chagall literally makes me fall head over heels (ha ha, art joke)! Picasso had bulls that looked like bulls and bulls that looked “bullish” but were not realistic. My point is that art has a variety of purposes that need to be considered when judging or creating. If Audubon had taken a “free” approach to his work, people at the time wouldn’t have known what all of those beautiful birds looked like. No, his purpose was to document life realistically and methodically so the many types of birds could be catalogued and identified. Thus, he had to have a realistic technique (it is fun to “pretend you are Audubon” with older children and have them make a sketchbook of wildlife observations). But Pollock’s purpose was to show a free expression in flowing paint (it’s not splattered, it’s flowing. Seriously, try it, it is not easy!) Matisse and the Fauves wanted to show strong emotionalism in their work. Michelangelo, who was actually a sculptor, showed his “sculpted reality” by creating ideal forms with paint. Children love to see varying purposes and approaches to art. They will learn that sometimes art is more free and sometimes it is more labored. This is good and will give them a more realistic sense of the world of art.

To help teach these purposes of art, you may enjoy The Art Book For Children (white book) and The Art Book for Children (Book two). We also love A Book About Design: Complicated Doesn’t Make It Good for teaching early design concepts in a simple way.
I would often give assignments in art class where creativity was important. I would say, “I want yours to be different from everyone else’s project and I want it to represent something about who you are and how you think.” Creative. There were other assignments where I would say, “I want yours to look as much like mine as possible.” One of the best ways to learn how to paint or draw is to try to recreate a work of art by the masters. So, yes, technique matters. But for young children it shouldn’t be overly-emphasized, or even stressful. Once they have a stronger sense for how the materials work, their fine motor skills are developmentally ready, and they have an understanding of end-product they will be eager to learn more difficult concepts. But for now, be satisfied with and encourage the experimenting with bits of technique added in when appropriate. Make it clear when it is time to copy you and when it is time to experiment independently. Remember that good technique will come in time, but in early childhood you should emphasize process over product.

Have fun.

Young children love stories and imagination and play. Encourage this and participate in it yourself from time to time. I would do things like prep a watercolor tray for painting by pretending that it is a bathtub for ants and “we need to fill it up with water!” (prepping the paint). Then I’d say that the paintbrush wants to wash its hair in the tub so we should swish it around really good (loading the brush). The we could “sweep the floor” with our broom on the paper (painting). And we want to clean (cover) all of the paper (setting a ground). There are many wonderful play-associations to make in art.

Reduce your stress by being prepared.

I have met many moms who say, “That’s so great that you do so much art with your kids, mine are lucky to get to color because I can’t stand the mess.”

To this I would say, fine. Don’t do anything that stresses out you and your family.
But… Is there a way that it could be possible to create art without the mess (or the stress or the cost or whatever it is that is keeping you from doing it)? Here are some ideas.
If the mess is what’s stopping you, here is what I do. First, I have many sturdy art boards cut out of smooth press board (a few dollars at Home Depot, they’ll cut them for you). Several of them are cut to exactly fit the top of a dresser that Caleb works on. I don’t care if he gets paint on them. It dries, we use them again. I use painter’s tape (which I reuse until it is no longer sticky) to attach paper to the boards so the paper will stay in place. This helps the kids to work on a “non-slidey” surface and also keeps them from dropping a messy paper on the floor.

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If it is nice outside, they work on the boards outside (because who cares if grass gets messy). If it is rainy they work on a tile floor, in my art studio, over a clear plastic shower curtain, or in the bathtub.

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Easel by Window

Actually, when Caleb was young, the bathtub was the rockstar painting place. I’d tape up paper, let him paint and smear, then wash him and the walls of the tub. Done. He was going to get a bath anyways, might as well let him paint first.

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Secondly, you should have a clean up plan in mind. For me, I just set the art boards aside until the art dries. No cleaning a table or whatever. I then have a small washtub with a washcloth that I put a bit of warm water and soap in and I first wash my kid, then we drop the paintbrushes, etc. in there and I set it in my laundry room until I have time to wash it. Then I just clean and rinse that stuff. If we are outside, I just hose it all off. Caleb wears an apron. Oh, and I often will use cheap paper plates as his paint palette and then throw them away when he’s done.

Have your art supplies ready. Keep them in totes ready to go. I keep ours all easily accessible, but up high (so little hands can’t reach them when I’m not around… hopefully) in various little buckets and tins. Then, when Caleb says, “I want to do play dough.” I say I will give it to him when his apron is on. Once it’s on, I lift down the supplies, set them on an art board and he plays with it. When he’s done, we throw all of the supplies back in the bin and put them back up high. This is much easier than having stuff all over the house or not being sure where things are.

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Another thing I do that works well is having an art/craft idea book open on his work space. I actually keep mine on a cookbook stand or clip it on the wall with giant metal clips. When we don’t know what to do, we turn the pages until we find something we like (we currently have). That, combined with having art supplies on the ready, means I NEVER PLAN IN ADVANCE. (Who has that kind of time?)

If you’re missing a supply that the book calls for, improvise and use something else. Your kid will learn to think of great things. Recently an activity required a carrot. After I told Caleb we didn’t have one, he thought for a moment and said, “I know, let’s just use an orange pipe cleaner.” Yes, my little problem solver, that sounds like a great plan. (I actually think it’s better to teach kids to go with the flow and improvise instead of having a perfect lesson organized. Think of the life skills they are practicing!)

Of course, train your child about how to use art supplies responsibly. If Caleb treats something unwisely, then art time is immediately over. There was one time I didn’t let him touch paint for a month. When we finally got to use it again he was older and wiser and knew the consequences and we haven’t had a paint problem since. He knows how to clean up his own brushes now and how to wash his own hands and put on his own apron…. The more responsibility your child can learn the more likely it is you will give him or her the opportunity to create.

If cost is what is stopping you, it shouldn’t! Magazines or junk mail are awesome for cutting and gluing. You can roll them and tape them to make all kinds of crazy sculptures. Use the backs of other paper, cardboard boxes, pieces of wood, old clothing, or anything you can find to paint and glue on. I got a huge roll of paper at Home Depot that is used for drop cloths for $5 and I haven’t even used half of it. (Interesting… the cost difference between kid’s roll of art paper and drop cloth paper. They are often the same thing. Actually, the drop cloth paper is thicker, so I say be a rock star and get the drop cloth paper!)

As long as they are in this experiment phase, let them use a variety of tools and go inexpensive. Once they develop more skill and interest, buy better quality so that they have a better chance of being successful (ex. painting with a cheap paintbrush and watercolors is torture). Let your kid collect sticks or grass from outside and make interesting things to paint or scrape with. The only think I don’t go totally cheap on is paint. I usually buy it from an educational or art store, and I get the washable tempera (because it if isn’t washable, that stinks). However, I only buy the primary colors. Caleb already knows how to mix all of his colors and I never once explained it to him (the experimentation… it works!).

I said earlier that I used flour + water as glue. Put them it in recycled containers, your kids will love to experiment with different containers (ketchup bottle, eye dropper, baby bottle, etc.) Even paint brushes can be made. I could go on with many more ways to save money, but this is a starting place at least.

Thank you for reading my long (whoa… LONG!) rant. I am a tired mother so it is going unedited. Sorry. Hope it inspires at least one of you to plunge in! Feel free to contact me if you have questions. My current e-mail is stephklewis at gmail dot com (written in a spam-bot-avoiding fashion).

Happy art making!

Making Art with Little Kids – Part 1 (the rant)

Caleb does a lot of art at our house. A lot. And most of it ends up looking like a horribly mangled piece of paper with too much glue and a little bit of everything stuck to it. And I am completely okay with it. Completely.

We have been in many “make art with the toddler/preschooler” situations and I don’t even know why I go. Oh, so he can learn to respectfully participate in a structured class with a teacher and other kids. (Even though we will probably homeschool, but that’s a totally separate discussion). The “make art” part is usually an obsessively structured cookie-cutter kind of lesson. I’ll tell you about the one we did today and my brief thoughts on it. In a later post I will share how I think art should be approached for small children.
The kids were to take a pre-cut jack-o-lantern made of orange tissue paper and glue it to a piece of black paper. Then, they were to make one cut on pre-cut strips of green paper to glue to the top for a stem. Last, they were to write their name on their paper. Done, thanks for coming, goodbye.

Problem is, 3-year-olds are fascinated with the fragility of tissue paper, completely enthralled by all things related to squeezing and oozing glue, and love repeatedly making scissors “chomp-chomp” paper. So, you had a room full of mothers going, “No, just a little bit of glue.” “No, no honey, put your pumpkin in the middle of the paper, the MIDDLE. No! Oh, let mommy do it!” “Cut a stem for the jack-o-lantern and then you’re done, no, we don’t need to cut anymore. I. SAID. NO.” You get the point.

And then there is us. Caleb collects his supplies and listens to the instructions. Good boy. Then he oozes too much glue (but not an insane amount, phew!) on the jack-o-lantern, sticks it with the paper facing the wrong direction (oh my!) in a 3-D sort of way so it’s mouth is open wide. Then he says, “My jack-o-lantern is SO HUNGRY!” More glue is squirted into the mouth, and many meticulously cut little bits of paper are chopped up (using a 2-handed scissor method that little kids often use) and “fed” to the jack-o-lantern.
At this point the teacher sees he is holding the scissors wrong and shows him how to hold them correctly. He listens and tries to do it her way, but truth is, those scissors are “child size,” which means they are for 7-year-olds. His hands are simply too small to use scissors correctly. Not to mention that he doesn’t have the dexterity yet to use them…. I’m getting ahead of myself. Anyway, he tries for a little while, sees that she is no longer watching him, sets the scissors down, and tears his paper instead. He adds more glue in spots around the paper and adds more torn shreds of paper that he declares to be “Leaves covering the jack-o-lantern!”

By the end of the class there were 7 neatly made jack-o-lanterns (all either completely made by or obsessively directed by the mothers) and Caleb’s, um, “creative” one. The teacher eyed me, knowing I was one of “those” mothers. Yup I am!
Isn’t his pretty?

Caleb's Jack-O-Lantern Collage

Here’s the deal. We, adults, are obsessed with products. We want something well-made, neat, and beautiful that we can hang up. At the end of the class, ALL of the other mothers were saying some version of, “Look at this beautiful pumpkin you made! We’re hanging it on the refrigerator!” Because the point of early-childhood art is apparently to make our kids feel as though they made something great and then to display that something. (1) Make kids feel good, (2) Display their art.

One wise little girl said, “But mom, I didn’t make it, you did.”

Another boy literally shouted at his mom, “I’m not done! I want the stem on the side! Right there! NOOOOOOO! I’m not done!”

Most young children don’t care about the product. Say that slowly. THEY DON’T CARE. And they know that you are doing their work for them. And they know that you’re expecting them to literally and metaphorically cut with scissors that are too big for their hands.
The truth is, early childhood is different from school-age children and teenagers. They have little to no foundation to build on when it comes to making and understanding art. Therefore, we need to approach things differently with them than we would ourselves or with older children. This seems obvious to me, but I’ve been in too many situations where it is apparently not obvious. Or people have good intentions, but don’t know how to break art down to the basics. So, to aid in this, my next blog post will share my advice about making art with young children.

Hysterical Child

The Olan Mills representatives recently came to our church to snap pictures for the new church directory. Caleb apparently thought the photographer was the most hilarious person ever made. Hee-lar-ee-ous. Seriously, this photo shows him at his best from this photo shoot.
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Also, I didn’t realize I was in my 30′s until I looked at this photograph. Yikes.

Jack is 9 Months Old

(Actually, he’s almost 10 months old as I write this. Yikes!)
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Look at this sweet little man! He is efficiently crawling and pulling up everywhere. This means that he gets into everything, but is exceptionally cute at doing so. In the past few days he has fallen in love with this Cozy Coupe car. He will sit in it for up to an hour, trying to get you to push him. It’s wonderful, so I usually oblige for long periods of time. It makes him so happy! And he tries to steer and beep the horn and makes the engine noise and everything. What fun.
He dumped the dog food all over himself the other day. Lucky for him, Ella didn’t mind. She just carefully ate her food off of him until she was done eating. He sat there with a huge grin on his face, not moving. Needless to say, I protect the dog when she eats now!
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He’s also at that stage where he is always holding onto my legs. Look at that face!
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He has 4 teeth now. Of course he does, what with all that chewing on shoes left in his path! He got his lower teeth on 8/23 and 9/20. Then his uppers came in on 9/26 and 10/2. Poor little guy was in a teething nightmare for a week or so there. And there are more coming in as we speak.
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I have no idea how we ended up with a child with this light light blonde hair, and his eyes are stellar! Melts a mama’s heart, he does.
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I would say that Jack has a very different personality from Caleb. He is an EASY baby. He is generally happy and content. Doesn’t fuss much (unless he needs something). He loves to be entertained, which really makes him and Caleb a match made in heaven. Caleb entertains and Jack claps for him. Repeat. That happens all day long around here.
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Caleb and I call him “Peanut Butter Jackie” a lot. Not sure why. But we have a song and dance that goes with it. Jack loves when we do it!
For his 9 month doctor’s visit, Jack was 18 pounds, 10.5 ounces (21st percentile) and 28.8 inches (71st percentile), head circumference was 17.7 inches (42nd percentile). The doctor said there should be better clothing choices for the tall skinny kids like Jack, and then Jack crawled out of his pants. I agreed. :-)
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Here are words he is saying. He really only talks to me and Josh and occasionally will try to communicate with a grandparent. Other than that he is very stoic.
Grandpa (RAM-PA!, said with gusto)
Grandma (ramma, said sweetly)
Dada (Da-Da!)
Mama (MA MA MA MA MA!!!, said all day long)
Light (aight!)
Book (Buh)
Caleb (Ub-Ub)
Ella (Ella)
All Done (Ah-duh, and the sign language for it)
Art (aht)
iPad (ipah)
Water (wah-wah)
Drink (duh)
Kitty (Tee-tee, and the “mew” sound)
Nurse (not the word, just the sign language for it)
Fan (roun-roun-roun-roun, talking about it going around, and the sign for it)
Duck (not the word, just the sound “WAH!” for it’s quack)
Horse (not the word, just the cutest “Weeeeee, pbft!” for it’s sound)
He also figured out how to climb stairs quickly and awesomely on 10/3. Now we use two gates!
We love our Jacky-Jack so much! He brings so much sunshine into our home! We love you little man!

Caleb is 3 Years Old!

Caleb turned three at the beginning of September. That is totally insane. He is no longer a little toddler, he is all boy. A boy who is a flurry of passion and activity. Can you keep up with him? I dare you to try. It is a sport, I tell you. A SPORT.
That being said, I wanted to jot down a bit about who he is and what he’s been up to these days.
HE LOVES BUGS. And frogs. And pretty much any other animal he can get his grubby little hands on. We are constantly tromping through the yard looking for something to catch. We have a series of clear little bottles displaying various bugs he has caught. We always release the frogs though because they are too awesome to let them decay in a little kid’s jar. Anyway, he is seriously passionate about these things right now. We read lots of books about them from the library and he is pretty knowledgeable about them. He can usually tell you what kind of insect or frog he has caught.
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We read a lot of books. Maybe 10-20 a day. We try to do at least one activity related to the stories we have read each day. This particular day we made a “gingerbread boy” (out of sugar cookie dough because gingerbread… ugh!) after reading The Gingerbread Boy. We actually have been doing Sonlight’s Pre 3/4 Core along with other books I have selected. He gets “Super Awesome Custom-Tailored At Home Preschool.” Lucky kid, I know.
Our "Gingerbread" Boy
We built a ten foot square sandbox for the boys. It is colossal and awesome. Caleb loves building all kinds of stuff and playing with his trucks in it. Sometimes we dig a huge mountain in the middle and play king of the hill. Sometimes we rake it and make “dirt cheese” as Caleb calls it. (We watched a Reading Rainbow episode where they are raking the in-process cheese so he now thinks raking is for cheese.) Most people I know are horrified at the thought of letting their kids play in dirt. I just have a stiff-bristled brush by the door and brush everyone off before we go back in the house. It works. And we love being in dirt.
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And of course there is plenty of mess-, I mean ART-making.
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I love his personality. He is so thoughtful, helpful, and sensitive. He’s always buzzing (or should I say “stepping in time”?) with activity and songs and dance. I don’t think he knows how to walk. It’s always some kind of dance or skip or run. HE IS WEIRD. And totally hilarious. Like a good Lewis, he always has his audience in mind.
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He got a bike. And currently isn’t really interested in bikes. It would probably help if he wasn’t so short and could actually reach the pedals.
Speaking of shortness, let me tell you about his annual doctor’s checkup. They tried the “big kids” eye test on Caleb and he got all of his letters right. The girl said she couldn’t believe he was only 3 and knew all of his letters. He did a really good job. He kept telling everyone he wanted to be a veterinarian or a doctor when he grows up (not prompted in any way by me). He loves Dr. Bratney and gets overly-conversational with him, which is totally hilarious. “Hey there, Dr. Bratney, it’s a blustery day, don’t you think? Oh yes. I will stand really still and close my eyes for you so you can listen to my ears. Did you know there is a drum in my ears? But it’s not a real drum, it’s an ear drum. Is that what that stethoscope is for? For my ears? Oh no, wait, I think it’s for the heart. Yeah….” When we got to the question about Caleb’s speaking ability, he said, “I don’t even need to ask you about his language development, I think we just had a collegiate conversation in the hallway.”
Caleb is 29.2 pounds (23rd percentile) and 35.8 inches tall (9th percentile). He’s a shortie!
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For his birthday we had a party at Grandpa Whiting’s house. Caleb dressed as Buzz Lightyear (because what little boy doesn’t want to be Buzz Lightyear on his birthday?). And he still loves Grandpa’s apples!
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And get a look at that pony we are training! Wish I was shorter because that pony will be a FUN ride!
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Look at that face! This mama is totally in love with this child.
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I could go on and on about the hilarious things he says and does, but just read my Twitter feed and you’ll get the gist of it. However, I will leave you with this story. I told him to go to bed and he said he needed to get something first. After a minute, he emerged wearing this. He called it his “O” hat. Um… yeah. There is no shortage of laughter in our house! We love you Caleb!
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Jack 6 Month Update

I blinked. I shouldn’t have, but I did. I blinked and all of a sudden, my precious little newborn became 6 months old and acquired a lovely personality.
Our Jack
His Stats From the Doctor
Weight: 15 lbs. 11.7 oz. (19%)
Length: 26.2″ (42%)
Head: 16.9″ (27%)
He got 3 shots and an oral vaccine while there. He literally cried for 15 seconds and then stopped, and resumed his normal smiling, kicking, and cooing. Caleb used to cry for like an hour afterwards. You’d calm him down only to have him “remember” and start up again. The thing I love about Jack is that I’m always prepared for a “what Caleb was like” response and I get all geared up, only to have him give a “what Jack is like” response. Which is pretty much like, “Ah! Oh, hey mom. I’m cool.” *looks around calmly* What is there not to love about that personality? I am abundantly thankful for the peace that this child brings into our home. And I am in awe at how he continues to define his own personhood, one day at a time.
(Compare his stats to Caleb if you wish.)
What He Does Now
Jack eats a lot. He nurses frequently during the day and several times during the night, and is eating solids three times a day. He must have the world’s most amazing metabolism because he’s still so small despite all the eating. I have introduced him to baby cereals, yellow and green fruits and vegetables, pureed chicken, and yogurt so far. If we eat without him, he screams and hits himself in the face. So, I put him up in his high chair, include him in on the magic, and he’s just a happy camper then.
He can roll front-to-back and back-to-front, but is generally content wherever you put him. He loves to grab things that are dangled over him and he loves to bang on things. He especially loves banging on the baby xylophone and the tambourine. He also enjoys blanket time when we are outside and he gets to observe nature.
Jack said his first word, Mama (sounds like “Maho-ma”) a week ago. He was in his car seat at Culver’s (after the Blue Angels Air Show in Eau Claire, WI with the Lewis clan). I said, “Oh, Hi! It’s Mama! Can you say Mama?” And he said it, clear as day, while grinning and kicking. Josh insists on hearing it earlier in the week, but I chalked those up to your standard infant babble. He has repeated it several times since, always to my delight. I think he’s working on “Ella” next since he’s been doing the “L” sound around her a lot.
He LOVES his Ella dog.
Jack and Ella
He LOVES swimming and anything to do with water. Kicking water. Splashing water. Destroying the water. You get the idea. We had a blast swimming with him at Breezy Point Resort a couple of weeks ago.
Jack and Mama Swimming
He LOVES his Mama and Daddy. And he LOVES his grandparents (man, I don’t have a “with grandparents” picture. how lame am I at documenting this stuff?).
Jack and Daddy
And he really really LOVES that weird kid who lives with us. You know him. The guy.
Jack and That Weird Kid
Jack watches Caleb more than anybody or anything else. And when he nurses, he holds hands with Caleb (I know, isn’t that adorable?). Caleb refers to him as “MY Jack.” We haven’t corrected him because, he is his Jack just as much as he’s my Jack or Josh’s Jack or whatever. Caleb is always looking out for him. When Jack cries, Caleb will say, “It’s okay, baby Jack. Your Caleb is here. And I think you can be happy.” Caleb gives him toys and books to play with and always includes him. There has been little, if any, rivalry between the two (but I suppose we’ll wait until Jack starts crawling before I finish that sentiment). When I put Caleb to bed he says, “Please, can my Jack stay with me?” The bond. The bond is growing stronger with each passing day. I only hope and pray that they continue to love and support each other all the days they walk this earth. Have peace. Insist upon peace, my boys.