On Being the Best Woman I Can Be (and Valuing My Husband)


Two things running through my mind these days:
Thing 1: The Woman Who Fears the Lord
I’ve started reading Proverbs 31:10-31 on a daily basis. I actually typed it out (here it is if you’d like a copy) and have it posted upstairs and downstairs for me to read regularly. I think it’s been essential to keeping my wits about me some days. It’s easy to feel like I’m trudging through days not making a difference, but this helps me see that serving and loving others is one of the biggest differences I can make! I am so thankful that God continues to prune my branches and refine me. I hope to commit this section of Proverbs to memory so that God’s truth will be able to emerge in my thoughts when I don’t have my little printout with me.
On a similar note, Nancy Leigh DeMoss is doing a series on Proverbs 31 that I am looking forward to called The Counter-Cultural Woman. Enjoy it yourself if you’re interested.
Thing 2: Project 52: Date Nights
Josh and I have decided to make a bold move and put our marriage first by jumping on the Project 52: Date Nights bandwagon. Basically, we’ve committed to doing a date once a week for the next year. Here are the terms of our agreement:

  • Every Friday night from 9:30 -10:30 p.m. is our date night. We can change it to a different day in advance if we’d like.
  • Majority of the time the dates will be at home so we don’t need babysitters.
  • We rotate being in charge of date nights every other week.
  • Can’t do the same thing twice in one month.
  • Dates need to be free most of the time. If not free, then under a budget of $30. Cheaper than if we went out.
  • No children allowed. (Except the occasional newborn if we both agree…)
  • Must create a date-like atmosphere. No frumpy clothes or pajamas. Make it a special event. Mind the details. But most of all, keep it simple.
  • Must commit to engaging with the other person and being positive in doing what his or her date night entails (like, if Josh wanted us to stare at a snow globe for our date night then I’d have to do the best snow globe staring I can do without complaining that it’s lame…)

We’ve already had one date, Josh took me to see Avatar. I have some Valentine’s plans for us this week. The beauty of it so far is that we are actually taking initiative to plan dates. Previous to this there was a whole lot of “What do you want to do?” “I dunno, what do you want to do?” “Ummm… let’s watch T.V.” “Ummm… OK.” I know, hot, right?
So, here’s to my marriage and my sweet geeky man. I love him and I’m so thankful that now we have some semblance of a plan to love and enjoy each other.